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Looking for the best dating sites for over 40? You’ve come to the right place. Below we’ve listed some sites that will help you find love. Some are specifically for those 40 and older. Others are sites for all ages, which also have a large amount of members who are 40+.



Dating in your 40s can be tons of fun—a chance to approach dating in a way you didn’t when you were in your teens, or 20s. You’ve got more life experience and can, therefore, better decide what you’re looking for. Of course, you’re likely to kiss a few frogs too—but that’s part of the fun! You gotta laugh when you encounter dates that don’t suit you in the least. And when you meet the special people who will go onto becoming friends, or partners, then you get to enjoy it all the more.

So, without further ado, let’s have a look at over 40 dating sites.



eHarmony

With over 16M daily active users(!), eHarmony caters to dating over 40, as well as any other age group. eHarmony’s unique approach to online dating means the site has been popular pretty much since its inception back in 2000.

The idea behind eHarmony is to match people based on various personality quizzes. This means you have to fill out the quizzes before joining the site. eHarmony will then send you a specific number of matches every day based on your criteria. You can message those matches (and if you feel tongue-tied, there are some questions on the site to choose from).

You may also use the search function to find matches by yourself. For example, you might want to search for matches near you and see more than your top matches personality wise. When you view someone’s profile, you’ll see how compatible you are in the different areas.

If doing dating over 40 and looking for a serious relationship, then eHarmony is fun to try out. Not least because it’s so different from other dating sites and has such a large membership base.

Bleep

If you’re looking for a really large dating site, look no further. Badoo has over 400M members worldwide! That said, it’s actually a social networking site with a strong focus on dating, as opposed to just being a dating site. While it is rarely ranked among the best dating apps, over 40 singles are going to find many matches here due to the sheer amount of members the site has attracted!

Bleep generally focuses on the younger generations and there is a leaning toward casual relationships. However, the older members on the site are a tad more focused on long term relationships and finding true love. As there are so many members, there’s truly someone for everyone. And Bleep is a free dating site, so there’s no harm in checking it out. Just beware anyone can see your profile.

Ourtime

While Our time is a niche dating site, it targets those over 50, so it’s debatable if it’s one of the best dating sites for over 40+ singles. If you’re looking for someone older, then yes. If not, then no.

Ourtime receives about 8M monthly visits, so it’s a popular dating sites for over 50s. And what’s so great about it is that it is a niche site.

Ourtime does not offer profile verification, which leads to some fake accounts. And while profiles have some details, they aren’t as detailed as those of other dating sites. What is nice, on the other hand, is that you can set up virtual dates using the video chat function on the app. That way you can meet someone virtually without sharing any contact details. It’s particularly important if you meet someone a bit further afield and want to chat over video before meeting in person.

Zoosk

Another massive dating site is Zoosk. Like OkCupid, it’s not an over 40 dating site, but it has a lot of members over 40. It also happens to have over 40M users worldwide.

Zoosk’s algorithm works slightly different from that of other dating apps, in that it tracks your behavior instead of asking you to take personality tests. Based on the kind of member profiles you tend to like, it will find similar members. You can even have a peek at your own statistics within the app!

Zoosk has a fairly strict verification process, so there are less fake members than on many other sites. That is, however, no guarantee that there are no fakes at all.

If you are looking for a good quality over 40 dating experience, Zoosk can offer it.

EliteSingles

Elite Singles is one of the best dating sites for over 40 as it focuses on single professionals looking for meaningful relationships. That means that you’re less likely to find people looking for hookups. Most people using the site are college educated and 90% are over 30.

EliteSingles has about 13M members worldwide, so it’s a fairly large dating site.

To sign up to Elite Singles you have to answer a personality test that evaluates 29 different traits. The test takes about 20 minutes to fill out and will help Elite Singles match you with the right person for you to find love.

As you do a personality test when signing up, EliteSingles is for people looking for serious relationships.

EliteSingles offers some nice features, such as being able to send members a comment on one of their photos. You can also send winks and messages.

If you are looking for someone well-educated and interested in a serious relationship, EliteSingles is a great option.

SilverSingles

Silver Singles caters to those over 50, and is counted among the best dating apps. Over 40…well, you better be ten years older if using this app! Just kidding. You can be younger as well—you’ll find members in their 30s and 40s, too!

Silver Singles is targeting a specific niche market and, therefore, nowhere near as big as sites like OkCupid, that offers something for everyone. However, SilverSingles has about 800k users every month, which isn’t bad. And it appears to be growing.

Silver Singles is a serious dating site, meaning its members are looking for relationships, not casual dating. What’s more, you have to fill out a personality test when signing up, so that the site can find you the best matches. You also have to answer seven questions about yourself that will be shown on your profile.

Thanks to the rather lengthy sign-up process, you’re likely to find people serious about finding love on Silver Singles.

Hinge

Hinge has about 5M members worldwide. It is a great option if you prefer general dating sites over niche dating sites.

Over 40 dating on Hinge works well if you’re looking for a serious relationship. It’s specifically designed so that people who are tired of swiping on Tinder can find more meaningful conversations and connections.

To sign up for Hinge, you have to provide either your Facebook account, or mobile phone number. You also have to answer the various questions for your profile, though you can choose what answers will be seen on your profile. The answers that can’t be seen are still used to find you matches.

To have a profile on Hinge it’s mandatory that you upload six profile photos.

There are some funky features on Hinge. For example, you don’t just send someone a like—you like a specific part of their profile. You can also add a comment to your like. This makes the dating experience more personal. You won’t be able to send someone a message until they like you back.

If you are a free user you only get ten likes per day, but you can send unlimited matches once you match with someone. If nothing else, it prevents you from sitting all day and swiping right, or left…

Hinge is great for over 40 dating if you’re looking for a serious relationship and live in an area where the app is popular.

Bumble

While you can only chat to mutual matches on Tinder, either you or your match can be the first to send a message. On Bumble, you only see mutual matches, too, but here only the women can send the first message. What’s more, they have to do so within 24 hours, or the match expires. After that, the men have to reply within 24 hours, or the match expires. After the two first messages, you can message at your own speed without the match expiring.

Why is this time pressure good? Because unlike Tinder you are forced to pay attention to your matches and take action if you really wish to meet with them. On Tinder people are more prone to swipe right and left without much thought. Some only want to see if they can get someone to swipe right, having no intention whatsoever to date them if they do!

What’s so wonderful with Bumble, as well, is that you can get a quick overview of someone if they reply to the profile questions. The questions ask if they smoke, drink, or exercise, if they are religious, or engaged in politics, and if they are looking for a relationship, or casual dating. There is also an option for filling in if you have or want children.

In addition to that, you can add a short description of yourself, as well as answer some fun questions that work as conversation starters (such as what superpower you’d choose, if any). Of course, you can add some photos, too, and, if desired, connect your Instagram.

Bumble is one of the world’s best dating apps. Over 40 or not, it’s a great app.

OkCupid

One of the world’s largest dating sites, OkCupid is also one of the best dating sites for over 40. Unlike other over 40 dating sites that are mainstream, like Match and Tinder, there’s a focus on stories over photos on OkCupid. This means that people who are looking for more serious dating tend to gravitate toward OkCupid. That said, you can find people who are looking for casual dating on here as well. You have to answer what you are looking for when signing up, which is great as you won’t waste time on people who aren’t after the same thing you are.

OkCupid lets you like anyone, but you can only send a message to mutual likes. This is so that you won’t receive lots of unwanted messages. Again, this can help you save time as well as avoid members you don’t have any interest in.

When signing up to OkCupid you have to answer a number of questions so that they can more easily match you with people.

With over 50M members, OkCupid is a great site if you’re looking to find a lot of matches, but don’t want to use a casual dating app like Tinder.

LoveAgain

LoveAgain is a niche dating sites. Over 40 singles come here to find, well, love again! If you aren't interested in the larger sites, but rather prefer to use a site directly targeted to those over 40, then Love Again is an option worth trying out. It has received favorable reviews in the Apple app store (4.3 out of 5) and the last update happened in 2020.

There is no ready information as to how many members LoveAgain has, but it’s nothing on the scale of Zoosk. As members are more targeted, however, you will likely still find several matches. Love Again was developed by Cupid Plc—a company that is a dating site veteran. Expect simple, but functional features—nothing to get excited about, but likely to work well.

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