Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You're right! It is redundant to describe a neologism as "new," since neologisms are by definition new: "ne·ol·o·gism noun a newly coined word or expression." You got me!)
"Neo-Neologisms, Please!" was too polite to point it out, but my two most famous and widely used neologisms have been around so long — pegging (2001) and santorum (2003) — that they're practically paleogisms at this point. So I accepted NNP's challenge and proposed "with extra lobster." My inspiration: On a visit to Iceland, I was delighted to discover that "with extra lobster" was a menu item at food carts that served lobster. This delighted me for two reasons. First, lobster is fucking delicious and getting extra lobster with your lobster is fucking awesome. And second, "with extra lobster" sounded like it was a dirty euphemism for something equally awesome. I offered up my own suggested definition — someone who sticks their tongue out and licks your balls while they're deep-throating your cock is giving you a blowjob with extra lobster — and invited readers to send in their own.
What follows are the best reader-suggested definitions for "with extra lobster," with occasional commentary from yours truly ...
"With extra lobster" sounds to me like going down on someone — regardless of sex — when it's a little more odoriferous than you would like. For example: "Things were getting hot and heavy with my Tinder date last night, and then I started to go down and was surprised with extra lobster."
"It could be applied to a man who has an exceptionally large and dangling foreskin ("His penis comes with extra lobster!") or a woman whose labia protrudes ("I love pussy with extra lobster!")."
"When I first started dating my wife, she kept her lady parts waxed clean, and they looked a bit like a lobster claw, even being slightly red if the waxing was recent. We nicknamed her vagina and surrounding area "The Lobster," or "Lobby" for short. So I would suggest that "with extra lobster" should mean anytime you get some extra lobster in on the act — from normal lesbian sex (two lobsters!), to a standard-issue male fantasy threesome (two lobsters and one cock), to a surprise second go-around after you thought the sex was over."
The area surrounding the vagina already has a name: the vulva. The spot where the opening to the vaginal canal can be found —also part of the vulva — is called the "vaginal vestibule." According to my thesaurus, lobby is a synonym for vestibule. So this proposed definition of "with extra lobster" is pretty apt. Now, some will quibble with the lobby-ish implication that a vagina is a space that needs to be entered. One can have a good time — great sex with lots of extra lobster — without anyone being penetrated, i.e., without anyone entering the lobby.
"Extra lobster should be the name for those cock-extender things. Example: "My husband has a small penis. And you know what? The sex is great! He gives great head, and isn't afraid to strap-on some extra lobster now and then."
"As a vegan, Dan, I strongly object to "with extra lobster." It reinforces the speciest notion that is it permissible to consume lobsters, sentient life forms that feel pain, and associating a sex act with the violence of meat consumption further desensitizes us to acts of sexual violence."
"This isn't a definition for "with extra lobster," but I wanted to share it. I live in Uganda and many of the streets are lined with stalls that sell BBQ chicken. If you know to ask for the special chicken, they'll often sell you weed. Special Chicken has become my favorite euphemism for weed!"