I'm a 67-year-old gay man. After a breakup 15 years ago, I believed the possibility of emotional and sexual intimacy with a partner was over for me. Then a couple of months ago, my desire for sexual contact increased dramatically. For the first time, I began using apps, and I felt like the proverbial kid in a candy store. Also, I was surprised — not unpleasantly — by the whole Daddy phenomenon, never imagining that this old face and body would interest younger men. You can probably guess what happened next: I was contacted by a 22-year-old man who revealed himself to be mature, intelligent, sweet, and, fatally, the physical type that arouses me most. I fell hard, and he seems to like me too. Am I a creep? A fool? Is my judgment impaired?
— Dumb And Daddy
The sexy "Daddy" thing — which has always been with us — seems to be undergoing a resurgence. Perhaps our omnipresent abusive orange father figure is giving us all daddy issues that are manifesting (in some) as a burning desire to service kinder, sexier, more benevolent daddies. Or perhaps the internet is to blame for making it easier for people to anonymously seek out the kind of sex and kinds of sex partners they truly want. Even if the initial looking is anonymous, DAD, discussing one's desires with others who share them helps people grow more comfortable with their desires and themselves — nothing melts away shame quite like knowing you're not alone — and more people are coming out about their non-normative sexual desires, partner preferences, relationship models, etc., than ever before.
That said, DAD, if the affections of a consenting adult 40-plus years your junior is your particular perk of aging, go ahead and enjoy it. Keep your expectations realistic (a successful STR is likelier than a successful LTR), don't do anything stupid (see Father Clements, below), and reacquaint yourself with my constantly updated and revised Campsite Rule: When there's a significant age and/or experience gap, the older and/or more experienced person has a responsibility to leave the younger and/or less experienced person in better shape than they found them. Do what you can to boost his knowledge, skills, and self-confidence while you're together, and do your best to stick the nearly inevitable dismount — the chances that you'll be together forever are slim, but you can forever be a friend, mentor, and resource.
While the age difference will creep some out, DAD, that doesn't mean you're a creep. Don't want to be a fool? Don't do anything foolish. Worried about infatuation-impaired judgment leading you to do something foolish? Ask a few trusted friends to smack you upside the head if you start paying his rent or lending him your credit cards. We associate age with power, but youth and beauty confer their own kinds of power, and that power can be abused — it can also lead seemingly sensible men to sign their life savings over to 24-year-old Romanian "models."
For example: "A 79-year-old retired priest has been left heartbroken and homeless after his 24-year-old husband left him just after their home was put into his name," LGBTQ Nation reported. "Philip Clements sold his home in Kent, England, for £214,750, before moving to Romania and purchasing an apartment for the couple to live in in Bucharest. He signed over the property to Florin Marin, so that Marin would have security after he passed away ... Marin broke things off just weeks after the apartment was put in his name, and Clements found himself homeless."
Keep Father Clements' sad story in mind, DAD, but don't be paralyzed by it. Because there are lots of examples of loving, lasting, non-creepy, non-foolish relationships between partners with significant age gaps out there. So enjoy this while it lasts, and if things start to get creepy, then you'll have to pull the plug. But if this turns into a loving, lasting, healthy, and unconventional LTR, DAD, then one day he'll get to pull your plug. (When that day comes, which hopefully won't be for a long, long time.)