Ryan's not quite at Dear Abby levels of sophistication, but she gamely fields those nagging questions students loft in the comfort of anonymity.
Here's here take when "Smooth" asks how she might get her boyfriend to "Manscape" without offending him, from the Sep. 16 issue:
An excellent question. I myself have wondered about this.
Depending on the guy, though, I doubt this would work. I myself am very proud, which is typically a “male characteristic,” so I understand how men feel when they say they are more open to an idea if they think they came up with it.
There are plenty of subtle hints you can drop. Like being in WalMart and pointing out some man grooming tools or printing out some waxing coupons from the spa and giving it to him. If he’s the kind of dude who cares what you think, he’ll take the hint.
Your situation might be more difficult, though, if he is under 25 and thinks it isn’t “manly” to manscape. Actually, yes it is. You don’t have to be disgusting to be a man. No one wants to date a grizzly bear unless you really like that weird stuff or you’re a gay “bear cub.” In any case, if he is mature, you will find a way to work it out.
So. Much. Wisdom!
Just remember, fellas: No one wants to date a grizzly bear unless you really like that weird stuff or you’re a gay “bear cub.”